Building and Sustaining Lifetime Relationships

Fulfilling relationships are so key to our life’s satisfaction and success.  It is really necessary that we commit to enhancing our skills and understanding so we are able to get what we want in business and life.  We didn’t receive much training on relationships.  For most of us, relationship classes weren’t offered in school or if they were, they weren’t necessarily a regular part of the curriculum.  Also, for many of us, family training models we received were not , dare I say, picture perfect AND no one told us about the workbook. The alleged workbook is the one that actually starts with ourself in regards to  assessing our behavior patterns, thoughts and beliefs that affect our relationships.   So many people assume we just know how to do relationships right – that these skills are somehow innately programmed in us…that somehow these skills don’t need to be practiced like all of our other skills: learning to walk, bike, swim, read, etc.

 Relationship building is a skill! So, it’s logical to presume that when we want to improve our success rate and rate of learning, we study and practice.  So doesn’t it make sense to learn how to be the best you can be at relationships?  Being the best you can be at relationships is just as important as when you are working on enhancing your parenting skills or expanding your knowledge base for learning a new computer program, going to the next level in your career, or accelerating your hobbies.  And, many of you know this rule, the better our personal life, the better our business life & the better our life satisfaction in general.  This is especially important in being able to experience work/life balance. It all starts from the inside /out and branches out to others.

Dr. Tina Tessina, PHD, Author and Relationship Expert  and I were discussing relationships recently. Dr. Tina imparted that one of the relationship skills to build on for effective relationships is to learn emotional self control.  In practicing emotional control, you want to take a step back before communicating.  Assess what you are feeling, why you are feeling it, what you can do to ease this feeling and how your partner can help. When you do this, you are now acting proactively versus reactively.

Each partner needs to do the above.

So, both people learn about themselves, they share this with their partner, then they can begin to work together toward the common goal of building and enhancing a quality relationship.

To learn more ways about enhancing your relationships in the continuation of the above discussion, press here and also learn about more resources.

Sustaining quality lifetime relationships are what it’s all about!

Do you have some tips that have worked for you?  Please share here or email me.

 

Advertisement

Tags: Atlanta Singles, Blog Talk Radio, building relationships, coneter for social connections, effective communication, Marie Pijanowski, quality relationships, Relationships, sustaining relationships, The Power Connection, tina tessina